We’ve all had our fair share of interesting experiences in life. Please read “interesting” in this sentence to mean, “horrible, awful, no-good, nightmarish debacles that lead to mental, spiritual and emotional maturity.” When we go through difficult phases, we have two choices: We can wilt and give up. Or, we can pull ourselves together, accept the temporary suffering, and, boldly, move forward.
Oh, so many “interesting” stories to tell…Many of mine happen to revolve around career:
My LinkedIn account is fairly standard. You will find seven or eight positions within a 17-year span. (Fairly standard, for a journalism major, turned sales and marketing director). Here’s the full monty, with regard to my resume: Tack on another 50 jobs, and you’ll have the full breadth of my work experience. In my lifetime, I’ve done virtually everything under the sun, once or twice.
One summer, I helped build a bridge. Literally. I worked on a bridge crew as a 21-year-old. I lost 15 lbs. that summer, working from 6am -6pm. Another summer, I sold books, door-to-door, in Ohio. (I kid you not). One holiday season, I worked retail at a Kansas City shopping mall. (Just one of the reasons why I abhor Black Friday). I worked as a counselor at a home for challenged teenage girls when I was 23-years-old. I taught speech and debate at a California academy. I have been a full-time, live-in, nanny. I waited tables at Applebee’s in college. I served as the sports writer for one of America’s top college basketball teams. I then became a sports columnist. Afterward, a page-one feature writer. Later, an advertising executive. I’ve worked at several start-ups and a few major corporations. I’ve been an apartment manager, a health supplement distributor and an administrative assistant. Let’s put it this way: My experience is not average. I have seen it all and I have insights and perspective far beyond the average, everyday, working American.
“Invent yourself and then reinvent yourself…Stay out of the clutches of mediocrity. -Bukowski
Why is my work experience so varied and deep? Well, mainly, because I’m a curious, no-fear kind of person. I’m a hard worker and when I put my mind to something, I get results. If I have an interest in it and I can prove my worth–why not? Who’s stopping me?
The upside to this way of thinking:
The upside, is that I have been learning my entire life. I’ve been constantly reinventing myself. Every new experience creates a wealth of knowledge and insight on work ethic, personalities, organizational dynamics, industries, environments, leadership styles, insecurities, motivations, expectations, attitude, etc. It’s been fascinating. It’s a blessing…
Now, for the downside: Naturally, there are multiple reasons why losing your job unexpectedly; changing companies to maintain sanity; working at unstable start-ups and being a naturally curious, authentic human being can skew enthusiasm for the workplace:
- Lack of purpose and passion: It’s difficult to find “your place.” Few companies ever seemed like home. And, when they did, it was because of the amazing, funny, supportive set of human beings around me. Otherwise, from an actual point of passion and purpose –not at all. And, the one time, I felt I had found a place where I was perfectly suited, I didn’t get to do the job that was originally described (which happens with obscene regularity). Such is work life. Carry on…
- You begin to doubt yourself: You begin to wonder if maybe you really are difficult to work with. Maybe, just maybe, you really do suck at your job. Hmmmm? But, no. You analyze your numbers and recognize that you’re breaking records. You’re passionate about your clients. You’re signing more accounts than multiple sales reps, combined. You’re doing the job of three people, not one. You’re admired by your peers. Your inventing new processes. You’re being nominated for most valuable employee. You’re reminding your boss to do things…(Somebody’s gotta do it). When you look at it objectively, you begin to realize that maybe you lost your job not because you suck–but, perhaps, it was because you didn’t suck enough.
- Your finances can take a hit: Stability in life? What’s that? It’s hard to find a truly “zen” quality of life, when you’re landing a new job every other year. Moreover, your finances can take a beating if you aren’t continually balancing your budget. It becomes draining. (But, in a round-about way, it’s exciting).
- You learn it’s all about BS politics, not talent: Entrenched in the working world, you learn a lot about everything under the sun: Politics; leadership styles; the fragile ego; when to give and when to take; how to temper your work ethic and manage your attitude. (Yes, sometimes, it’s best to GNF). Most of all, you learn about yourself. etc. Anyone who wants to work in today’s corporate world must learn to “play the game.” It’s a racket. Quite frankly, I never made time for it. I was too busy doing my job. You know, accomplishing things; attending to client needs; managing time, effectively…What a waste of energy and brain power we put into appeasing egos. Forget it. Officially, I’m out.
At the end of each day, you get to choose: Always choose happiness.
Today, I’m writing. I’m taking classes to become a certified life and health coach. And, I’m collaborating with a friend to develop a holistic marketing partnership. This is different. I’m passionate about what I’m doing. My life experiences are culminating in the book I’m currently writing…Not to mention, I have ideas for 10 + additional books (a conservative estimate). Will it be easy? No. Will it be fun? Yes.
Which brings me full circle to, roughly, 2005:
After suddenly losing a sales/marketing position (for no apparent reason, which was par for the course), I vividly remember driving through The Plaza in Kansas City with my friend, Collette, and breaking the news: She looked at me, her mouth agape, as if to say, “Unbelievable. How does this happen to you, Chesley?” Collette, a career woman, who knew me as level-headed and bright, always listened with great interest to my job adventures, and provided me with great advice. As we discussed the latest mayhem, she shook her head and said something I’ll never forget: “Everything that’s happening–it will make sense someday. Maybe it’s something you’re meant to write about.”
Yes. Some things, you simply cannot explain in career, relationship and life. It happens. You accept it. Move on. Don’t think about it too much. Don’t second-guess your talents, strengths and abilities. Trust your voice. The universe is in the business of presenting us with small miracles, daily, to open our eyes. We simply have to slow down long enough to listen, understand and connect the dots. Everything happens for a reason and the answers come, all in due time.
I wouldn’t be doing what I am, today, were it not for a million little miracles directing me in another direction. For this I am eternally grateful. The universe truly works in mysterious ways. Embrace it. Go with the flow. Find your purpose. Embrace your passion. This is living.